Tricia Pyatt, MA, LPC
Get Ready to Dance
Being a wife is hard. Being a widow isn’t easy either. Parenting? The hardest! Grandparenting is the thing we look forward to because we can enjoy the good and ignore the bad! Am I right? But guess what: That comes with its own set of struggles, too! The truth is, life is difficult, no matter what stage we are in.
Lately, I have been struggling. Struggling to balance motherhood, work, being a good wife to my husband (and pretty much everything else I have going on), and sometimes, it is all just too much. I withdraw, I get snippy, I shut down and can hardly make myself do any of my daily jobs. I can’t focus on any of the things I need to get done, even though I am HYPER-focused on all that I need to do! Surely I am not alone in all of this.
I know I am not alone in this.
Lucky for you (and me), you are not alone in this fight. Even if it feels like you are drowning, and nobody notices, I promise you, help is on the way. The only requirement is that you ask for it – which is usually the hardest part.
What if we stopped feeling like we had to be strong? What if we stopped feeling like we have to be perfect? What if we knew that people actually cared, and that it wouldn’t make them uncomfortable if we said anything other than “fine” or “ok” when someone asks how we are doing?
What if we didn’t feel like we always had to hold it together?
You are not weak for needing help. You are not weird. You are not annoying. You are not dramatic. But most importantly, YOU ARE NOT ALONE. It is simply that you are not ok right now. And I want you to know that that’s ok. It’s ok that you can’t do it on your own. It’s ok that you need help. And you know what? It’s ok to not be ok. Sometimes you just have to put on a poncho and weather the storm. And who knows – maybe if you get some help, you’ll not just weather the storm, but you’ll dance in the rain.
The world is full of difficult circumstances. Whether it be infertility, grief, anxiety, depression (or any number of issues), circumstances can make life so overwhelmingly difficult.
Brace yourself for a storm, get help, and get ready to dance.